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15 tricks to overcome procrastination

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This is a guest post by one of the UK’s leading experts in digital distraction and digital detox, Frances Booth, author of The Distraction Trap: How to Focus in a Digital World, A Writer For All Seasons, and more productivity tips. Find out more about her here.

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Research shows that many of us procrastinate. So if there’s something you’re avoiding, delaying or sidestepping, you’re far from the only one.

We’re skilled at procrastinating, sometimes so much so that we don’t even realize we’re doing it!

But things can only be put off for so long, and procrastination often saps our time and our energy. We also often want to stop procrastinating.

So here are some tricks to save time and angst when tackling procrastination.

Use whichever strategies resonate with you, or perhaps the ones you feel most resistance when reading:

1. Make a list of what you are putting off right now.

2. We invent all manner of other tasks that suddenly need to be done when we are putting something off. Recognize that this is happening if your diary is filling up with everything other than the thing you are putting off.

3. Are you delaying because there is a cost or potential cost involved? This cost could be in terms of time or in terms of money. We might overestimate or underestimate how much this will be, or be delaying due to uncertainty around this. Budget and work out how much time or money will be needed. Then you’ll be readier to go ahead.

4. Are you delaying because taking the next step will mean you have to deal with confrontation, a difficult conversation or feeling uncomfortable? If so, find strategies to deal with these things.

5. Rather than thinking of the reasons why not, list the reasons why.

7. Putting off something scary? Try making it less formal by sitting on the floor, working in your slippers or writing in coloured pen, for example.

8. Give yourself an impossibly tight deadline. See how much you can get done in 20 minutes. Or decide to complete the whole project by the end of the day. When we have a tight deadline, we don’t have time to protest and procrastinate – we just have to get on with it.

9. Watch out for other people attempting to take your time just at the point you’d finally set aside time to get on with your task you’d been putting off. My related piece on Top 10 Ways To Say No And Save Timehas more tips on protecting your time.

10. We give a lot of energy to the things we don’t want to do by procrastinating. Instead, start focusing on the things you do want to do.

11. We often put off large tasks because they seem just too big to ever have time for. For example, you might have ambitions to write a book. Nowhere in your day-to-day schedule will you find the “spare” weeks and months needed for this in one chunk of time as a whole. Instead of putting it off (which could last years), break huge tasks down into manageable chunks. So, in the example above, find time to write a paragraph, or a page, then build from there.

12. Take the task you’ve been putting off, and do it as a draft. For example, quickly draft a tricky message, or scribble down key ideas for a presentation. Telling yourself this is only a draft frees up a lot of the hesitation. If it’s not for real we don’t have the same pressure we often feel when dealing with important or significant tasks. The next day, come back to the draft and send it, finalize it, publish it (or take the equivalent action to make it real).

13. There can be a huge sense of freedom and relief once we tackle what we have been putting off.

14. Instead of completing a task, get it 80% or 90% done. One reason we hesitate is that we want things to be perfect. The final bit of any task can take a disproportionately long time. So, once it’s at 80%, ask yourself if it could be finished, or finished within, for example, half an hour.

15. There are always easy tasks we can turn to to fill our time. We can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks or years on these, staying well within our comfort zone. We procrastinate when things are challenging. But when we do those trickier tasks, the ones that push us beyond our comfort zone, we might wish we hadn’t put off expanding our boundaries for so long.

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Life According to Mr. K: It’s time to shape our own future…

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What a chaotic few weeks it has been for us Brits. The EU referendum generated the greatest political interest and interaction I have ever experienced, and the outcome will define our nation and society for generations. It certainly feels like our national pride and identity has taken a battering, no matter which way we voted.

Personally, I was dismayed to see the vote go the way it did, having voted ‘Remain’ myself.

Firstly, as a parent I think the opportunities for my two daughters will be diminished as a result.

Secondly, as someone who spent a lot of his childhood living abroad, I know the benefits of being surrounded and nourished by different cultures, religions and races. I find it fascinating that we refer to ourselves as ‘expats’ when we go abroad, when we are also immigrants in the same context. We seem to have definitions to suit our agenda.

Lastly, there is the ideological element. We are one human race and we have to work together, collaborate and share to overcome some of the huge global issues we are facing. We are better together, not divided.

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So what now? We have been catapulted into the unknown. We are adrift with no plan in sight. The speed in which our so-called leaders have deserted us is particularly worrying and a sorry reflection of their character. There are a few queuing up to seize power, but I’m not sure anyone is ideal for the job. I think the real leadership we need now can only be found away from the political circus.

This post is not intended to be a political rant. There was a democratic vote and the majority won, even if our entire government seems to be crumbling around our ears. What we need to do now is look ahead, and think about where to find inspiration and leadership in the future, outside of the political structures and campaigns that have created this chaos.

We have been misled and misrepresented for too long. Hugely important issues — and the people affected by them — have been used as pawns in power matches. I get so frustrated because this is not the world I see in my work. It is such a stark contrast to the amazing people we get to work alongside, and serve, and is the antithesis of the values alive in our own community.

I believe that in the absence of an inspiring, authentic and honest political leader it is time for us to step up and lead ourselves, within our communities, online and in the wider world.

We are a country oozing with class, potential, character and integrity.

More and more companies are being built primarily to forge positive change in our world. Entrepreneurial visionaries all over the country (and indeed the world) are pouring their heart and soul into work that matters. Their mission statements demand only the very best from them and their staff, but they do it because they care. The people driving these businesses do so because of a desire to make the world a better place. We need these kinds of people playing a wider role outside of their businesses, influencing society to take a look at itself and start to make different choices.

The entrepreneurial spirit that is alive in our country is one we should be hugely proud of, invest in and harness. Entrepreneurs nearly always find a way, even when up against seemingly insurmountable obstacles. They have tenacity and grit, creativity and vision. And if there isn’t a way, they will invent it. Imagine what we are capable of if we bring these qualities to all realms of our life.

When motivated, ordinary people are capable of extraordinary things.

To help them step up we need to put our trust in people who have earned it. We need to think carefully about whose example we are following, and whose behavior we are modeling. And as we start to step up ourselves, we need to share our own expertise and experience with great ease and grace, because it all helps.

I believe that this spirit is actually within all of us. We just need to find the inspiration, motivation and support to awaken it. We need to find the right communities and tribes of people that understand us, who stand for what we stand for. This is key for our growth and confidence.

Change begins within. We need to challenge ourselves to be the very best version of ourselves, and demand more of those who lead us.

“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading”. Lao Tzu

With so many brilliant, honest and inspiring people in our country there is no need to feel lost or uncertain. There is no need to look only to our politicians to represent us. Instead put your faith in people you believe in. Those whose values resonate with yours. Those who challenge mediocrity and demand excellence. Those who are innovating our communities, our country and our world in a way that is better for the majority.

What could you do?

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How To Kickstart Your Productivity This Weekend

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This is a guest post by one of the UK’s leading experts in digital distraction and digital detox, Frances Booth, author of The Distraction Trap: How to Focus in a Digital World, A Writer For All Seasons, and more productivity tips. Find out more about her here.

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Could you use your weekend to be more productive, not by cramming it full of work, but in other ways? 

Time away from the office is an important aspect of productivity. For a start, that’s when we get to choose for ourselves how we spend our time.

Often, however, when it gets to Monday morning we don’t feel refreshed or productive. We feel in need of another weekend before the week has even begun. [Tweet “What should you do at the weekend to help boost your productivity for the following week?”]

Here are some suggestions of strategies to experiment with.

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Knee deep in books and ideas…

I hope this finds you basking in the same kind of glorious sunshine we are enjoying here in the south of England. I am just back from a few days at the Hay Festival (of books), and How The Light Gets In, a festival of ideas and philosophy, both held in the sweet Welsh town of Hay-on-Wye.

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My mind was left buzzing so much from the events that I have hardly slept since I got back. Today I’m going to share a few pictures and thoughts from Hay, and next week I’ll share some insight into the fascinating ideas festival.

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The Hay Festival is one of the most famous literary festivals in the UK. It pulls in big name authors and crowds of 1000+ people to hear them talk, but it also has smaller intimate events where you can ask your favourite authors anything you like. I went to a wide range of events, from a Q&A with Sarah Bakewell, author of ‘At The Existentialist Café: Freedom, Being and Apricot Cocktails‘, to a session with Anthony Lester QC, author of ‘Five ideas to fight for: How our freedom is under threat and why it matters’ and the barrister at the heart of the thirty year campaign that resulted in the Human Rights Act.

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As you can see there is a bit of a theme going on here… no surprise that I was interested in talks on the theme of freedom with my own book deadline just around the corner, and freedom on my mind…

All the talks were interesting but the one which really blew me away was Ruby Wax on mindfulness. She was hilarious, powerful, knowledgeable, down-to-earth and very real. If I can ever hold a room the way she did, I’ll be proud! I’m looking forward to reading her book, ‘Frazzled‘.

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The main thing I learnt was that it takes all sorts to be an author. The most important thing is to write a really good book, but after that it helps if you can talk about it in a compelling way, with a touch of humour and a bucketload of humanity.

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Depending on your view of books, spending several days at a literary festival may seem like a luxury or a trial, but to me it was a fantastic opportunity to think deeply about certain ideas, to interact with authors and have a lot of fun people watching! It was refreshment for the brain.

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This week I challenge you to take yourself to some kind of event which takes you out of your comfort zone and pushes you to think differently about something you are interested in.

Have a good one!

Beth

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PS: We have another ‘Mastermind Week’ coming up next week in ‘Reach. Teach. Profit. The E-Course Creation Masterclass’ so if you want the opportunity to pick my brain about anything e-course related, make sure you are signed up to class by Monday June 13! You can register here.

Life According to Mr K: When good people go and we are left behind

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A tribute to my friend Glen

When you strip away everything that doesn’t really matter, you are left with people. Family. Friends. Other humans. Connections between us, some deep and long, some fleeting but remarkable. And every now and then, if you are really lucky, you get a friendship that is both deep and remarkable, which changes you forever, which fills your life with laughter and stories, and makes you a better person for knowing the other. That’s how it was with my friend Glen.

Five weeks ago Glen passed away, aged 39, and the world is a sadder place for it. But in writing about him, and writing a tribute to him, I am determined to find something I can hold onto, a fragment of goodness and hope that I can carry with me in the years ahead, as I grow older, and as his tiny daughter grows up.

I have put off writing this particular post for a while. I guess it was because deep down I thought writing it would mean that I have accepted that one of my dearest friends has left us. Even as I write this I get a shiver all over my body. I still don’t want it to be true.

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Win a private mentoring session with DWYL Founder Beth Kempton!

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Over the past few months I have received many enquiries about private mentoring for people wanting to develop their own e-course. It’s hardly surprising as online courses can be a fantastic way to generate a flexible income and share your gifts with the world, but… and it’s a big BUT… there is a lot to navigate to get your work out there in the hands of the right people.

I know that it can be a long road, and it can make a huge difference to have someone experienced to bounce your ideas off. Although I am consumed with writing a book right now, I am planning to start offering a 1-1 mentoring service later in the year to go alongside our online course ‘Reach Teach Profit: The E-course Creation Masterclass’.

As a trial for this, I am offering one free mentoring opportunity (in person or via Skype) to someone registered for the class. If you think this would benefit you, read on! (Note: You can register with a £50 discount if you join by May 31 – just use the code ‘rtpmentor’ at checkout).

Not only is this course packed with our unique insight from several years and several million dollars’ worth of e-course sales, it really translates. One current participant recently launched her first course with 70 sign ups in the first 24 hours. Yours could be next!

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THE PRIZE! ** PLEASE NOTE THIS COMPETITION HAS NOW CLOSED AND THE WINNER HAS BEEN ANNOUNCED**

Your choice of the following:

  • 2 x one-hour mentoring sessions with me via Skype OR
  • A two-hour mentoring session in person (only available in the UK)

During this time you can ask me anything at all regarding the creation of your online course, or business in general.

*Please note you must be registered for ‘Reach Teach Profit: The E-course Creation Masterclass’ by May 31, 2016 to enter this competition. The Masterclass contains a huge amount of valuable insight into the overall development of your course, and the mentoring is designed to go alongside that teaching. You can register with a £50 discount if you join by May 31 – just register here and use the code ‘rtpmentor’ at checkout.

TO ENTER

Answer the following questions in writing or in a short video (3 mins max):

  • What is your motivation for creating an online course?
  • What is your course about and who is it for?
  • How has the course helped you so far? (Note: If you are a new registrant and have not yet had time to dive into the course, it’s fine to omit this question)
  • Why would mentoring from me help you?
  • What specific topic(s) would you like to discuss in our sessions?
  • If you were to win, would you prefer 2 x one-hour Skype sessions or 1 x two-hour in-person mentoring?

Send your entry to [email protected] with ‘E-course Mentoring Competition’ in the subject title by Friday June 3, 2016 and include the following:

– Your written answers to the questions above or a link to your video (please upload to Vimeo.com and be sure to send the password if you choose to make it private)

– Your full name, and website if you have one

Please be sure to read the small print below before entering.

I will select the winner based on who I think would benefit most from mentoring at this time. The winner will be announced by Friday June 10, 2016.

If you want to take advantage of this rare opportunity to pick my brains directly, please make sure you are registered for the course by Tuesday May 31, 2016, and submit your application by Friday June 3, 2016. (Remember, you can register with a £50 discount if you join by May 31 – just register here and use the code ‘rtpmentor’ at checkout)

Good luck!
Beth

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THE SMALL PRINT

  • This opportunity is only available to individuals registered for Reach Teach Profit by Tuesday May 31, 2016, who submit their entry as per the above guidelines.
  • Beth Kempton’s decision on the winner is final and no correspondence will be entered into.
  • There is no cash alternative and the prize is not transferable.
  • If the winner chooses to have the in-person mentoring session they will be responsible for all travel, accommodation and other related costs to attend the meeting, which will take place in Southampton, UK or London, UK
  • The mentoring sessions will take place at a mutually convenient time, to be completed before December 31, 2016.

Why getting older means getting better

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Is the best really yet to come? Definitely! We love these articles in The Huffington Post about why life gets better with age…

On my 39th

Costa Rica - poolI want to take a moment to be grateful today, for this day, my 39th birthday which I am spending in a beautiful yoga spa in the Costa Rican jungle and on a white sand beach at the edge of the Pacific Ocean.

I have spent most this week working on my book, which will be on the shelves this time next year. I came here eleven days ago with a rough structure and an inch-high stack of notes. I now have nearly 30,000 words of a first draft to send to my editor. It’s still a long way off the final version, but it’s in a completely different place to the day I landed, and I am so grateful for this time.

I couldn’t have done it without the incredible care of the staff here at the Costa Rica Yoga Spa. They couldn’t have done more to make me feel at home, and give me space to write and write.

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