Inspired by Jennifer Lee’s latest newsletter, Mr K and I were having a chat today about the difference between ‘change’ and ‘transition’.
As we started packing boxes for our next house move in three weeks’ time, here are some of the things we pondered:
- ‘Change’ is often an event, whereas ‘transition’ is often the period of time running up to that event as you prepare for it, and following that event as you settle into it.
- The word ‘change’ feels huge and in-your-face. ‘Transition’ feels more subtle.
- Change seems sudden. Transition seems gradual.
- ‘Change’ sounds like a destination. ‘Transition’ sounds like a journey.
- Change seems practical or physical. Transition is more emotional.
- To make a change you usually have to stop doing something, start doing something, or do something differently. And it can be forced upon you. This often takes a sackload of courage. To make a transition perhaps you can be more gentle on yourself, take baby steps, and test the water as you go.
With both change and transition you end up somewhere you weren’t before. And that’s exciting, but can be scary! From the many changes we have gone through over the past few months, we have found that the following really help:
- Know what you want to be different after the change. Keep reminding yourself of this when things get tough.
- Have a plan for making the change, and handling the emotional transition.
- Be aware that these things usually take longer than you expect.
- Expect to feel disoriented, a little in limbo, or nervous. Being uncomfortable for a while can lead to great things.
- Talk to someone about it. You don’t have to go through it on your own. And if someone is sharing the journey, that is even more fun!
- Take a moment to reflect on what has gone past before you leap into the change.
- Celebrate your new beginning.
How about you? What do you think is the difference between change and transition? And how have you handled the big changes in your life?