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Merry Christmas from Do What You Love (+ 10 alternative gift ideas!)

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Christmas is just around the corner, and we are feeling oh-so-festive in this corner of the world. This is our first Christmas in our new house, and baby Maia’s first ever Christmas. And Christmas Day is Sienna’s birthday, so there is much to look forward to.

2015 has been an amazing year, a challenging year, and a happy year, but also a tough year for many people we know. This time of year brings many things into focus, and we hope that whatever kind of a year you have had, you have a very happy festive holiday.

Here’s to celebration and happy moments

Beth and the Do What You Love team

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Our 10 favourite alternative Christmas gift ideas…

(1) Make a memory movie

(2) Write a story (use our free resource Winter Writing Workshop to help you!)

(3) Create a mixtape

(4) Create vouchers for your time (teach someone something, mow their lawn, do the washing up etc)

(5) Create a book of family recipes

(6) Give them a voucher for the Do What You Love course to help them make a major change in their life* (course starts Jan 18, 2016)

(7) Design a scavenger hunt with a map and clues hidden across your town or city, in places that remind you of special times

(8) If you are feeling very generous, and want a gift for someone who loves adventure, this Exploring Mindset trip down the Mississippi would be an amazing present!

(9) Book a ticket to a free event (museum, public lecture, street market etc) and take them along

(10) Write a letter telling someone how much you appreciate them

And if you want some tips on present wrapping, no-one does it like the Japanese!

*If you want to buy a gift voucher please drop a line to [email protected], and be sure to mention the discount code DWYLXM50 to get £50 off, if you book by December 31, 2015

Your free 2016 New Year’s Revolution kit is here!

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With the holidays rapidly approaching it’s easy to get caught up in all the busyness and festivities, and before you know it, the new year will be here. Take a few moments for yourself, before things get too hectic, to reflect on 2015 and plan ahead for 2016 to make it amazing. Our wildly popular resource ‘New Year’s Revolution’ kit is back, and it’s still free! You can download your copy here.

New Year’s Revolution: A practical kit to help you make 2016 the year you do what you love’ is a FREE 24-page PDF to help you extract the good from 2015, look ahead and shape your 2016 into the year you want it to be. It includes a powerful technique to help you make dreams into reality, and make your ideas happen.

Doing what you love doesn’t happen overnight. It is an attitude, and a way of life, and it takes courage and boldness to make the tough decisions which let you get there. It also takes thought and planning, so we have created this special gift to help you on your way. Thousands of people like you have used this resource for meaningful planning and visioning.

Don’t make yet another New Year’s resolution, start a revolution!

**UPDATE: YOU CAN DOWNLOAD THE LATEST VERSION OF NEW YEAR’S REVOLUTION FOR 2017 HERE.**

A week in Rwanda…

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This is a guest post from Claire Le Hur who is cycling to China with her fiancé Stuart Block. The couple will start their journey in East Africa where they will follow new ‘silk roads’ charting the journey of key natural resources as part of an exciting new education project. Claire will be riding a bamboo bike, built by an African social enterprise and Stuart will ride a tandem, keeping the back seat free for those they meet en route. They will also be raising money and awareness for two great educational charities. Find out more about Claire’s big adventure here.

Claire Le Hur

In my last post I talked about the genocide memorial and this atrocity is still what many people think of when they think of Rwanda. And yet Rwanda is a beautiful and fertile country where 80 per cent of the children go to school and where littering is illegal. In fact people are so conscious of keeping their community clean that they spend the last Saturday of every month cleaning up their streets.

It is amazing how far Rwanda come in the last 20 years, but despite its progress there are still many big issues simmering beneath the surface that lead you to question if, and when, things might start to unravel again. For example:

  • 80 per cent of the population live on less than $2 per day, and 65 per cent on less than $1
  • freedom of speech is non-existent
  • disabled people are often exiled and there are stories of a ‘prison’ on Lake Kivu
  • despite the brilliant work by the Gacaca court to reconcile Tutsi and Hutu, many feel that there are still underlying tensions because most government and high paid jobs are now being taken by Tutsis and because many Tutsis still feel that revenge would be just.
  • Allegedly Rwanda is supporting the rebels over the border in DRC and there are some dubious dealings going on concerning the export of minerals and weapons.
  • President Kagame has worked wonders since the genocide, and while there is something to be said for a ‘benign dictatorship’, in 2017 he will stand for a third term – which is constitutionally illegal – and there is no opposition. Who knows what will happen at election time but hopefully the current climate in Burundi is not a hint of things to come.

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Christmas for free! Join our experiment in giving and receiving

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It’s Beth here, easing my way back into things after four months of maternity leave. I have so much to share with you from that time, which has seen us welcome a new baby into the world, move house and work on some exciting plans, but I’ll save all that for the coming weeks (once I have caught up on some sleep…)

For now I want to say a huge thank you for all your kind words when Maia arrived. She is an angel baby who has melted our hearts.

I also want to invite you to be part of an experiment.

To Mr K’s dismay, the Christmas carols went on today. I know it’s only November, but I love Christmas, and in my eyes the longer I can eat mince pies, listen to ‘Silent night’ and dream of snow the better. I have been talking to members of my family about this Christmas, trying to find ways to make it special without spending a fortune. Besides the seasonal celebrations we have four birthdays and two wedding anniversaries in our immediate family, and December becomes a never-ending stream of gift exchanges. My sister-in-law suggested we give each other ‘free presents’, and I loved the idea at once.

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Why meditation can help you do more of what you love

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Meditation is an ancient practice that encourages us to take responsibility for our own state of mind, and change it for the better, in order in order to transform ourselves and experience inner peace in the midst of worldly chaos.

Meditation brings many benefits. As well as helping us to relax and de-stress, it can boost concentration, increase self-awareness, improve health and wellbeing, slow the ageing process, and make us feel happier. It can also help us figure out answers to questions or decide which path to take whenever we find ourselves at a crossroads in life; something that happens, as if by magic, when when we open ourselves up to the universe and allow ourselves to be guided by intuition – the quiet voice within.

When we go enter deep meditation we find ourselves in a space of infinite possibilities, infinite correlation, infinite creativity, infinite imagination, and infinite power of intention. It’s from this space of freedom, clarity and inner wisdom that we gain valuable insights and discover solutions to the issues bubbling to the surface of our consciousness.

Just sit for a few minutes each day with yourself, with no distractions. See what comes up in your mind, try to quiet your mind, and then see what comes up again.

What is your inner voice saying? 

Stressed? Try slowing down

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This is a guest post by one of the UK’s leading experts in digital distraction and digital detox and author of The Distraction Trap: How to Focus in a Digital World, Frances Booth. Find out more about Frances here.

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It’s easy to get into the cycle of thinking we need to go faster, faster, faster all the time.

“It’s so slow …”, we complain, if a web page takes an extra half-second to load. “I haven’t got time for this …”, we think, tensing up, if we’re forced to wait in a queue.

We’re busy, we’re stressed, and we’ve got too much to do.

But what happens, if, instead of always trying to go faster, we consciously and deliberately slow everything down?

I’m not talking about huge changes. I’m talking about slowing things down just a fraction.

So you might take a second longer to put on your shoes before you rush out of the door, spend a moment more looking at the scenery as you walk, or consider for a few seconds the task you’re about to launch in to.

One technique that can help you slow down in this way is consciously naming (in your head) each object as you come across it. So “bowl, milk, cereal, spoon” as you have your breakfast, for example.

Of course you don’t have to carry on like this all day long. But it can be a useful technique if you need a reminder or a way to shift down a gear from rush, rush, rush mode.

By slowing things down just a tiny bit, and doing things deliberately, we can shift our awareness. We become focused in the present moment, rather than our thoughts racing ahead or repeating past events on a loop. This can calm us down.

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Sometimes we try and go faster, faster, faster just because everyone else is.

Often it’s because we want to cram more in to each day. I’m all for productivity. But there’s such a thing as going too fast, trying to fit in too much. This can leave us overwhelmed and overloaded. We need to know how to keep a balance, and slowing down a fraction is one way to do this.

It’s when we’re most stressed and busiest that we need to step back the most. Yet the challenge arises because it’s precisely at this point that we feel like we have no time at all to stop. We feel like we literally don’t have five minutes to spare, and the smallest task added to our workload can utterly overwhelm us. In this state of mind, it can be hard to catch ourselves long enough to even realise that slowing down would help. We’re on automatic …

Sometimes we operate at top speed for too long just because we’ve become stuck in that mode.

So when we’re stressed, a few seconds here and a few seconds there of slowing down, can shift our awareness and bring us into the present moment.

It can make us wonder; why were we in such a rush?

The next leg of our big adventure: cycling 552km from Uganda to Rwanda

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This is a guest post from Claire Le Hur who is cycling to China with her fiancé Stuart Block. The couple will start their journey in East Africa where they will follow new ‘silk roads’ charting the journey of key natural resources as part of an exciting new education project. Claire will be riding a bamboo bike, built by an African social enterprise and Stuart will ride a tandem, keeping the back seat free for those they meet en route. They will also be raising money and awareness for two great educational charities. Find out more about Claire’s big adventure here.

Claire Le Hur

On Sunday, September 13, we left Kampala accompanied by the Kampala Group of Bikers (KGB), a talented bamboo bike maker called Kasoma, and his apprentice, Khalid. It was a pleasure to finally meet Kasoma, and for him to see me ride the beautiful bike he made me through Kampala. It wasn’t the nicest ride out of the city, mainly due to the huge number of heavy trucks passing by but we were soon back out on the open country road. Every hill we went up had a similar length descent which meant my legs got chance to rest. My kind of hills!

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We ended up as a core group of five cycling to Namagumo, a village near Masaka just South of the equator and 130km from Kampala.

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As we ate our lunch we heard shouts of ‘Mzungu, Mzungu’ and ‘How are you?’ and people slowed down to take our photograph. When we started cycling again children would chase us along the roads.

Stuart Block and Claire Le HurChildren running alongside us

We stayed two nights with John-Paul Rutagarama, or JP as we’ve come to know him. JP is an agriculture student in Kampala and he’s also the keeper of his grandfathers’ beautiful house in the hills above Masaka. This stop came about following a serendipitous encounter that Stu had last term at his school. One day he was having lunch with Michael, a supply teacher, and they were discussing our trip when Michael said he has a grandson in Kampala who would be happy to host us – it was JP!

JP took the back seat of Stu’s tandem (Thandie!) and we rode around local villages like Villa Maria, which is houses the oldest church in Uganda and a school that Michael is funding. Heading off the beaten track caused quite a stir; the children we met looked terrified. JP explained that we are possibly the first white people they’ve ever seen which was amazing given we we were just 10km from the main road.

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IMG_6999The school built by Michael: the children loved staring at us while sheltering from the rain!

During dinner with JP we discovered that the heir to the throne is half Rwandan so conversation turned to relationships between Rwanda and Uganda.  It turned out that JP and Khalid both have Rwandan roots. JP was born there, lived through the genocide in 1994 genocide and moved to live with the Ugandan side of his family in 1996 to seek a better and safer future. Sadly his father was poisoned in 1998 – they still don’t know why. His uncle (JB Rutagarama) worked as a translator for journalists in the refugee camps and then moved to the USA and made the famous film Back Home telling the story of his return to Rwanda to find his family after the genocide.

When we entered Rwanda a few days later, I thought back to these conversations many times. At the border was a poster advertising a $5,000,000 reward for information about perpetrators still at large. Then in Kigali we visited the moving genocide memorial museum and burial ground. Here we found JP’s relatives on the wall of names – three Rutagaramas were among the 250,000 buried at this site, around one quarter of the estimated one million Tutsis killed in 100 days in 1994.

Memorial wallThe wall of names in the memorial

Stuart and I then continued South West with Khalid as our guide. Khalid is just 16 and wants to be a professional cyclist. “My dream is to cycle and win the World Championships, but a good bike will cost at least $500 and then I need the racing components. I come south to the hills to train as much as possible. I keep chickens and sell the eggs and also work for Kasoma when I am not in school to try to save money. I am staying at school so that if I cannot get sponsorship I can become and accountant. But this would not be my dream.” 

En route we visited two schools and Stuart even taught some economic lessons. At the first school, West College, Mbarara, we camped in the headmaster’s garden. The students were so excited to see us. It was as if celebrities had arrived and they all rushed to shake our hands. We’d arrived in the middle of one of their mock O-Level examinations but we were still welcomed in.

Then we headed south to Kabale. Here the hills were tough but although it was hard work, the scenery more than made up for it. At one point the heavens opened, as they do most days here, so we took shelter at the top of the mountain as descending in the rain, at dusk dark would have been too dangerous. I’ve been surprised by how quickly darkness falls here, being so close to the equator.

At the end of a long day we were lucky enough to spend two nights in Khalid’s childhood home – his Grandfather’s house. It turned out that his grandfather was buried in the garden but it is still very much his house, as he explained: “My grandfather owned all the land here but my uncles sold it off and so we are left with just this house now… my three aunts, two uncles  and their families live here and although my mum lives in Kampala, they still keep her room. My uncles have sold so much but we don’t know where the money has gone.” Stuart and I slept in his mother’s room and we really appreciated the family’s generous hospitality. They even boiled water so we could shower. We stood in the corner of the house courtyard in the dark pouring water over each other hoping Khalid aunts would not come out of their rooms!

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We had a well deserved rest day in Kabale and met Khalid’s cousin, Mohammed Ali, who is, of course, a boxer! His father, Khalid’s uncle was the national champion boxers his day and Mohammed is trying to follow in his footsteps.

The next leg of our big adventure: cycling 552km from Uganda to Rwanda IMG 7109 3 e1443618840241Khalid and Mohammed: ‘Strong arms and strong legs; boxer and cyclist’.

Then it was the final leg to Kigali. Khalid and Mohammed escorted us as far as the border. It was a mission trying to get across but we made it! We waved emotional goodbyes to our young guide with promises to keep in touch. He is a young man who will surely succeed if he if given the chance. It must only be a matter of time before a black African gets worldwide recognition in cycling… who knows, maybe Khalid will be the first.

We had one lovely long climb, with some super fit children running up faster than I was cycling and then it was freewheeling (or should have been if it were not for the headwind) all the way to Kigali.

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Our first impressions of Rwanda: absolutely beautiful! Very green, very hilly and so clean, tidy and quiet… it was actually quite unnerving to have people just walk over and stare, without the usual cries of ‘Mzungu, Mzungu’! For now we’re planning a few days rest days before heading north again to visit Team Rwanda at their cycling compound in Musanze and hopefully pop into Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC).

You can read more about our big cycling adventure in my next post on Tuesday, November 10.

How mindfulness can bring peace of mind

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Do you find it difficult to focus? Do you worry a lot? Would you love to be able to relax more easily?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions practicing mindfulness could really help you change the way you think, feel and act.

What is mindfulness?

When you are mindful, you are able to pay attention to the present moment, and not get swept up thinking about the past or worrying about the future. It means you get to enjoy every little moment of life as it happens, and the impact of this on your mental and physical health is really positive.

According to Mindfulness expert Andy Puddicombe, giving ourselves 10 minutes of peace every day, that’s 10 minutes of doing absolutely nothing – not texting, talking or even thinking – is all we need to refresh our minds and experience the transformative power of living the present moment.

Interested in learning more? Watch Andy’s TED Talk – All it takes is 10 mindful minutes – for inspiration…

 

What do you love about colour?

What do you love about colour? The Do What You Love team share their thoughts…

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An interesting theme for me as it is not one I instantly think about. However when asked about what it is about colour I love then it has to be the way it communicates so much. It can lift the spirits of a person, change the mood within a room and dramatically alter landscape. – PAUL

My interest in colour started when I had my aura read years ago. I couldn’t believe that the colours in the photograph could tell me so much about my emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing. Now I’m fascinated by the energy of colour and how it can influence the way we think, feel and act. Colour is a powerful tool that we can all use on a daily basis to improve our moods, boost our energy levels, improve our health, heal our bodies, stay balanced, and attract love, happiness and much more. – RACHEL

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Colour is so essential to our everyday life. It can change our energy, our outlook and our mood in a split second. It can spark a memory – like a peppermint green will always remind me of the birthday cake my mum made when I was young (yes, I wanted a green cake!) and silver always reminds me of my first car, such sparkle! What I love about colour is that it is everywhere I turn – in nature, in my home, my food and I get to choose the colour I want to wear each day and how I would like to invite it into my life. – LOUISE

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What are your thoughts? What do you love about colour?

We’d love to know. please leave a comment below…

5 ways to fill your life with colour

Want to make life more fun, fascinating and adventurous? It’s time to shake up your world!

Getting out of the rut of your everyday routine, shifting your thinking and making small and simple changes could be all you need to put some colour back into your life.

Here are our top tips for changing things up:

  1. Be curious; make it your mission to discover new ideas, places, people, and interests
  2. Be expressive; don’t be afraid to speak your mind and communicate your feelings with others
  3. Take the initiative; don’t sit around waiting for permission to do what you love to do
  4. Be inventive; think outside the box and enjoy coming up with original ways to do things
  5. Be confident; don’t be scared to make mistakes. Act like you know what you are doing, even when you don’t!

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