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How to leave work on time

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This is a guest post by one of the UK’s leading experts in digital distraction and digital detox and author of The Distraction Trap: How to Focus in a Digital World, Frances Booth. Find out more about Frances here.

For many of us, leaving work on time seems impossible. Getting up from our desk, and walking out of the door at the time we are meant to should be simple, but it isn’t. We want to leave work on time, we aim to leave work on time, but yet, we don’t manage it.

Day after day, this cycle repeats.

So how can we shift our thinking? While working 15 minutes, 30 minutes, or an hour late each day might not seem like much in isolation, when you add this little bit of time up each and every day, it becomes a huge chunk of our time. One of the things that often overwhelms us about work when things get out of balance is not having enough time for personal admin. All those little life tasks build up and we feel disorganised and out of control because we have no time to do them.

By getting our work done, then leaving on time, we leave ourselves time for our lives outside of work. Being productive during the working day improves our work-life balance. An important part of time management includes leaving time for our lives outside of work. It might seem a small thing, but one vital step in doing this is leaving work on time. After all, if Barack Obama manages to get home in time for dinner, then surely, so can we.

Here are some [Tweet “dos and don’ts to help you leave work on time”].

Don’t:

‘Just check’ your email one last time. You’ll get pulled back in to answering demands, and another email cycle will begin that could pull you off course for another half hour an hour.

Waste time during the day and then have to stay late to catch up on what you should have done earlier.

Create a crisis each day.

Make extra work for yourself. Instead, look for ways to be more productive in every instance possible.

Work in an office where there is a culture of all staying late just for show.

Let work fill your entire evening. Be especially careful if you work for yourself – you might have to do extra work on boundary setting.

Waste time on email.

Waste time on social media.

Feel guilty. By taking time away from work to wind down, recharge, and enjoy your life outside of work, you’ll be more productive and happier when you get back to the office.

Do

Expect it to take longer than you think to finish up for the day.

Leave clear instructions ahead of time for anyone you’re handing over to as you leave.

Stay late on the days it’s really vital to. You won’t mind this now and again if you leave on time normally.

Steer clear of other people who waste your time. Remember, you need that time so you can leave on time. Read my article on the Top 10 Ways To Say No And Save Time to help with this.

Get organised. Work hard.

Get your work done in a productive, efficient way during the day.

Think twice before deciding to take work home with you. This especially includes working from your smartphone or tablet (just because the technology means you can doesn’t mean you should).

Set a good example if you’re the boss.

Get in to the habit of leaving on time.

Think about results, productivity and getting things done, rather than sitting at your desk just for the sake of it. What you get done is the important thing, not how many hours it takes you.

Expect it to be tricky at first. Whenever we make a behaviour change this is the case.

Try leaving work on time today.

What experiences are you learning from right now?

The growing stages of life never stop. From the moment we are born, to the moment we die, we are learning. We are developing and growing, having new experiences and gaining new insights. Our biggest challenges are often our greatest teachers; it’s through these that we gain knowledge, wisdom and a deeper understanding of the world around us. The more we understand, the more meaningful life becomes.

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Live broadcast from The Little Beach Hut of Dreams!

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BBC journalist Jane Vickers in The Little Beach Hut of Dreams

UPDATE: The Little Beach Hut of Dreams has been sold as we no longer live in Brighton and only residents are permitted to own beach huts there. This post has been archived for reference but we are no longer accepting applications for Dreamer-in-Residence. We would like to take this opportunity to thank all our Dreamers-in-Residence for being part of our adventure, and to Towergate Insurance for awarding The Little Beach Hut of Dreams runner up position in Beach Hut of the Year 2015. She was very proud!

Things have gone a little crazy around here since our Little Beach Hut of Dreams was shortlisted for the Towergate Beach Hut of the Year competition. Today we hosted a live BBC radio interview from the hut, with a soundtrack of seagulls and breaking waves. You can listen to Beth’s interview here:

The Little Beach Hut of Dreams is a tiny creative project that we dreamed up in order to create space in a busy world, to honour the importance of carving out time to dream, and just be in the moment. But more importantly because it recognizes our idea to share this tiny space with the world through our Dreamers-in-Residence programme, which allows members of our community to borrow The Little Beach Hut of Dreams for free for the day in return for a blog post which will in turn inspire others.

Now the competition is on to find the winner – and there is a public vote so we would LOVE for you to support our project and vote for The Little Beach Hut of Dreams! It just takes a minute CLICK HERE to vote.

By voting for The Little Beach Hut of Dreams you are showing your agreement that we all need time and space to dream, and encouraging others to use assets like this for wider community benefit, not just their own enjoyment.Thank you!

Be inspired to do something new today

Do you feel stuck, bored or frustrated? Are you searching for deeper meaning in life? Then perhaps it’s time you tried something new.

The truth is that it’s always within your reach to make new connections, learn new things and have new adventures. You may not be able to quit your job, or change the fact you have a long commute,  but every day presents countless opportunities for you to decide how you want to handle these things, and every other part of your day, in order to make the most out of life.

Of course it’s easier to carry on doing things the same way you’ve been doing them for days, weeks, months, years, but taking a chance and doing something different can bring enormous benefits. Sometimes even the smallest shift in thinking or doing can create the biggest opportunity, paving the way for positive life changes and major fulfilment.

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July’s happy list is here!

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What’s is making you happy this month? What is making your heart sing? What are you most grateful for?

Write it all down on July’s happy list! Big things, small things – it really doesn’t matter! All that matters is that everything on your list makes you smile and feel thankful.

Brighton marinaOn my happy list this month… fun, freedom and new experiences! It was so much fun chartering a yacht from Brighton Marina and spending some quality time with the Do What You Love team ~ Rachel

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Download July’s happy list here and start celebrating your happiness today!

Bonnie’s day at the Little Beach Hut of Dreams

UPDATE: The Little Beach Hut of Dreams has been sold as we no longer live in Brighton and only residents are permitted to own beach huts there. This post has been archived for reference but we are no longer accepting applications for Dreamer-in-Residence. We would like to take this opportunity to thank all our Dreamers-in-Residence for being part of our adventure, and to Towergate Insurance for awarding The Little Beach Hut of Dreams runner up position in Beach Hut of the Year 2015. She was very proud!

 

This summer we’re enjoying welcoming a handful of dreamers into the Little Beach Hut of Dreams. Bonnie Craig spent a sunny day by the sea this June, and wrote this lovely blog post about her experience. 


Last week I spent a day being a Dreamer in Residence in The Little Beach Hut of Dreams. Dreamers in Residence are encouraged to use the day ‘to ponder and plan, to watch the waves or stare at the huge open sky’. Which is exactly what I was hoping to do.

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I was welcomed into the beach hut on Brighton seafront by Rose, who showed me round the two square metres of loveliness and then left me to my day of dreaming.

I know that I think better when I’m occupied so I brought a sketchbook and some marker pens, with the idea of doing some really simple, repetitive patterns that would occupy the bit of my brain that needs to make decisions, while the rest of it would be free to wander around some of the ideas and thoughts that I haven’t had time to focus on for a while.

I also brought my camera, which I pointed straight out to sea and set up to take photos every 30 seconds. I wanted to document my day but didn’t want it to detract from my time there, so leaving my camera to do the work all by itself seemed perfect. And this is what it saw:

After spending some time people watching and sea watching, I realised that actually I was a bit of a spectacle myself and lots of people wanted to talk about what I was doing. So, after a few lovely but distracting chats, I got the pens out.

I went for repetitive, brightly coloured dots – about 15,500 of them in fact. One of the reasons I like to work with pattern is that I think the order created by repetition can be calming and reassuring. In my work I like to disrupt this order, which for me is where a pattern becomes really exciting, but on this day I just wanted the calming element. So I sat, and drew little dots, letting my intuition choose which colours went where, and as I did it I thought about lots of things – big things and little things – that hadn’t had the attention they deserved in a while. And while that sort of thinking can often be stressful, I actually found myself feeling completely calm and content.

Drawing the dots was more about the activity than the final result, but it’s given me some ideas for making really simple pattern tiles that can be combined in loads of different ways to create a final pattern that looks as if it is repeated, but is actually different every time it’s put together. I (really!) hadn’t meant to ‘work’ in the beach hut but it was an unexpected bonus to come away with new ideas.

Without wanting to do too much public soul-baring, a big part of the day for me was making some peace with my hometown of Brighton, somewhere that’s seen some of my most and least happy times and is always a bit emotional to visit. The opportunity to indulge myself in processing some of my thoughts and memories there was pretty cathartic.

And before I knew it, there was only an hour left. At which point I decided to treat myself to an hour of reading the book I’d just started, and I sat out in the deck chair and lost myself in the world of Theo Decker.

Rose came to lock up at the end of the day, and I went on my way, with a dreamy grin, to meet an old friend for dinner. I can’t recommend a day in The Little Beach Hut of Dreams enough.

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What would you do with a day away?

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Last week we had our annual ‘away day’ at Do What You Love. It was actually two days – a strategy meeting on Wednesday, and a day on a yacht on Thursday! We chartered the boat to give us a way to get a complete change of scenery, open our minds and think differently. And it worked!

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We were brainstorming ideas for my book (more on that in the coming weeks), and it was amazing how the gentle lapping waves helped us forget about to-do lists and tune into some big deep questions.

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It was also good to spend some fun time with our lovely team, on a gloriously sunny day, to hear more about their individual dreams and plans, and get to know them better.

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We are only a small team, but moments like this are important.

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Even if you work on your own (or for someone else), can you give yourself the gift of an away day? If so, here are some tips to make it special:

  • Put it in your diary and guard that time carefully. No adding little meetings, or cutting it short for urgent business. Protect it, and make it happen.
  • Go somewhere you don’t normally spend time, or use an interesting mode of transport to get there. Try being on the move as you think – perhaps walking, hiking, cycling, or sailing.
  • Clear away all distractions (no email, no phones, no small people – just for a few hours!)
  • Plan one specific thing to think about, and ask yourself a handful of probing questions
  • Let your mind wander, and see what emerges
  • Make notes about your ideas, as they may disappear as easily as they arrive

This week we challenge you to find time for your own awayday. We’d love to know what you thought about, and what came out of it – please share with us on Facebook or Twitter!

Have a lovely week

Beth and team

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Ditch the routine

Do you have a routine? How does it go?

Chances are you don’t acknowledge your routine day to day, but we bet you have one. You probably go through most of it on autopilot, without stopping to consider whether what you’re doing is healthy, productive or enjoyable. Isn’t it time to change that?

We’ve been really enjoying doing the activities from the Do What You Love e-course recently. Week three of the course is all about being brave and coming alive. One of the activities asks you to spend a day mixing things up a bit, so we asked Rose to ditch her routine today. Here’s what happened.


When I started thinking about what I was going to do differently today, I was at a bit of a loss. Shaking up your routine is inevitably going to move you out of your comfort zone – that was clear at the very moment I started thinking about it. But when I really got to thinking about what I could do differently, I felt a strange sense of excitement.

It started with breakfast. Today I swapped my usual Marmite for Nutella and bananas on toast. Having chocolate for breakfast always feels indulgent, but it’s the chocolate-banana combo that makes this an unbeatable start to the day.

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Rather than sitting straight down in front of my computer after breakfast, I decided to go for a morning stroll on the seafront. It was a beautiful day – sunny and breezy – and I was surprised to find so many people by the sea before 9am. I was even more surprised at how friendly everyone was. I tend to assume everyone is grumpy in the morning, not being a morning person myself. But receiving so many friendly hellos so early in the day put me in a great mood.

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After my stroll it was time to get to work. But I was feeling remarkably chirpy, and I didn’t fancy working on my own. I decided to give my friend (a freelance designer who works from home) a call. She invited me to work at her house, so I grabbed some juice and biscuits and headed over.

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I loved working somewhere new in the company of my friend and her cat, Mila. We enjoyed frothy coffee, countless snacks and great music. And I had a really productive working day.

I was so surprised at what an effect shaking up my routine had on my mood, and my productivity. I felt more alive today than I have in weeks. I’m looking forward to changing my routine in different ways in the future – perhaps I’ll end up replacing my old routine with a great new one that’s just right for me!


The Do What You Love e-course will help you ditch bad habits and boring routines, and lead you to see what you really want (or need) more clearly.

“I am now far more open to ideas and willing to say yes to opportunities. I think, well, whats the worst that can happen?!” Shona W., Do What You Love participant, Jan 2015

Join us this June for the experience of a lifetime.

He can make you whole again… spotlight on Andres Roberts

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“I have really tried to be the change many of us want to see.” ~ Andres Roberts

Today’s world is more complex and challenging than ever before. Many of us find ourselves meandering aimlessly through life paying little attention to how we feel or where we’re heading. It’s no wonder that we find ourselves feeling lost and disconnected. When we don’t really know or understand our true authentic selves, how can we truly connect with others, and the world around us?

Andres Roberts, co-founder of Way of Nature UK, is a leading expert in positive revolution. As a guide, a facilitator and a leadership and change advisor he is dedicated to helping people find wholeness, purpose and balance in life. The concept of “wholeness” is at the centre of all his projects – understanding that we are a part of something bigger can allow us to let go of the smaller things that hold us back in life (“our everyday bonds”) and focus on the bigger picture.

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“For some reason we’ve come to a place in life where it’s normal to wear masks, and play roles,” Andres explains. “It’s  intriguing for me that for so many people life begins at five o’clock or at the weekend, when they start doing things they really love. That’s a form of separation for me. What we’re doing is separating ourselves from our beliefs, from each other, and from our true selves. I believe that all this is happening because we act to feed unhealthy aspects of our ego, that small self that can be so misguiding. It’s how many of us end up working in jobs we don’t like, feeding consumer culture, but not really meeting our deepest needs and passions.

“When we think and act from a small ego we lose sight of the fact that we are part of a much bigger ecology and to me this is really interesting. I believe that we feel that ecology all of the time. We need to spend time outdoors. We need to spend time in nature. As soon as the sun is out we all want to be out there, we all feel heavy and tired and we sense our energy draining if we sit behind the computer all the time. We evolved in the wild with trees, birds and grasses, so when we go for a walk in nature, it’s about going back home. Being outside in nature can lead to deep relaxation and opening of the heart and that it is an antidote to what contemporary work and life, fuelled by a consumer culture, is all about.”

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A few years ago Andres’ work investigating playfulness, or the lack of it, in our working lives opened the door to nature. He started taking groups of people to Spain to experience solos in the wilderness – on their own for a day or two – to help them to reconnect with themselves and nature. He also organizes retreats and workshops to get more connected with nature and recently spent 28 days alone in the Colorado mountains.

He explains: “When people spend significant immersive amounts of time in nature their sense of self shifts. The boundaries within the walls of their body and mind begin to move. They feel present and connected, and they begin to flow more easily as part of a world, a bigger world. It’s like growing a family; your sense of self expands. You see outside yourself and realize that life is not just about you anymore.  You are connected. You are all one. We are all one. It’s very natural to want to spend more time in nature because we miss that connection to something bigger, the wider whole.”

Do you feel lost or disconnected? Do you want to live a more whole and balanced life? [Tweet “Are there things about the way you work, live and play that you want to change but don’t know how?”] Do you dream of spending more time in nature? Andres can help you figure out the answers here. And for more information about Andres, visit his website.

“I know Andres well both professionally and personally. He is an absolute pleasure to work with and to be with. His motivation for systemic change is tangible and his energy is abundant and infectious. I think this comes from his alignment with the natural world and the purity of his motivation. He is a genuine inspiration.” ~ Steve Waygood, Chief Responsible Investment Officer, Aviva Investors

Ideal environments

Our environment has a huge effect on not only how we feel, but how we live our lives. When was the last time you thought about where you want to be as opposed to what you want to be?

When have you last been aware of what kind of environment makes you feel alive and gives you a sense of possibility? Is it in a bustling town centre or is it in a cottage overlooking a dramatic sea landscape? Week 1 of the Do What You Love e-course encourages you to explore what changes you want to see happen by visualizing your ideal life, and that includes where you feel the happiest.

As we go through some of the Do What You Love exercises this month, we have asked Vickie to go through the “Ideal Environment” exercise. This is her mood board below.

All images courtesy of @vickieinwonderland


The way a certain environment can make you feel is very powerful and finding a place where I can be happy and feel alive is as important to me as finding my “crowd”. When I travel, I often get somewhere, look around, sink in the atmosphere and think “I could live here”. It’s always a combination of things that makes me feel that way, but if I break it down, my ideal environment would have to include these three elements: water, gardens & markets.

Water

Water is calming and invigorating at the same time and it’s ever changing. You never look at water twice and see the exact same thing. Whether it’s the sea or a small stream at the bottom of a garden, water is in constant movement and it reassures me to know that something in constant movement can still be calming and permanent.

Gardens

For me, gardens are havens of peace. It is important for me to have even a tiny patch of garden somewhere. When I lived in a small London flat, I converted a little corner of my kitchen into a garden, with fake grass and pots with different plants and flowers. I had less space for cooking but I could have breakfast in my “garden” and nothing would make me happier than seeing the sun come through the window onto my plants after a tiring day at the office.

Markets

As much as I love the peacefulness of water and gardens, I also love a bustling marketplace. They make me feel like I am a part of a community of great people, even if I don’t know anyone there. Markets are friendly and happy places and although they can get a bit hectic, to me they are always rather comforting. They are like huge street parties where strangers come, share things and go away with a sense of belonging and a smile on their face.”


The Do What You Love e-course will help you understand that you can choose the kind of life you want and gives you the tools to explore what your ideal life would look like so that you can start building it for yourself.

“This course has been very important for me to understand myself in a deeper way, and make the right choices.” Cinzia R., Do What You Love participant

Join us this June for the experience of a lifetime.